Let Go of Bitterness

“It always struck me in years after how bizarre it was, how two people could look at one another with such tenderness and complete love, and how quickly that could dissolve into nothing but bitterness.”
― Hannah Harrington, Saving June

I will never forget Dave Wesley. In the fourth grade, Dave and I would play basketball together every day at recess. Neither of us was very athletic. We knew that we didn’t belong in the more competitive games of the athletic guys on the other court. But we enjoyed playing and we enjoyed each other’s company. So every day we played a one-on-one full court game where our imaginations and our friendship were more important than our lack of athletic skill.

When I learned that my family would be moving in the middle of the year, I was sad, disappointed to be leaving this comfortable place. I had just gotten a positive reply to my romantic note-passing with Kimberly. Dave and I would no longer be able to imagine ourselves as Pistol Pete on the playground.

We planned out that last day of play, our championship game. We would seal our friendship and settle our basketball season with one final game on my final day of fourth grade in Gastonia North Carolina. But then, something odd happened. It was my last day, and the cool kids, the athletic guys, suddenly invited me to play with them, on their court! I still remember the look on Dave’s face as I told him I wouldn’t be playing with him that day. I still remember looking over as he stood all alone on our court and shot baskets while I fumbled around on the other court, trying not to think about how I had betrayed my real friend for a few minutes of acceptance among the “cool kids.”

I hope that Dave eventually understood and didn’t judge me too harshly for my moment of weakness. I don’t know. Probably, he made a new friend and didn’t think much about me anymore.

But I have never forgotten him.

Throughout our lives, small betrayals and thoughtless blows strike us from friends and acquaintances. Mostly we learn to move on, set it aside and even forget. But what if we can’t? How do we prevent bitterness from eating at our souls like cancer?

“Let all bitterness… be put away from you,” Paul says in Ephesians. But that is not so easy to do. We really want to hold on to those hurts and the hope that one day our pain will find resolution in revenge. They’ll get theirs!

Paul follows up his admonition to put away bitterness with a more positive command: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Kindness, tender hearts, forgiveness, these are the keys to letting go of bitterness. They are not so easy to find within ourselves. But Paul’s words also contain the key to enacting these positive traits to overcome the negative ones.

We remember that God in Christ forgave us. How can we refuse to forgive, refuse to let go of our bitterness when Christ has forgiveness us?

I hope Dave was able to forgive me. I know God has. And because God has forgiven me, I can begin to let go and forgive when others hurt me.

Love in Christ,
Greg Burriss, Pastor
Rocky River Baptist Church
Siler City, NC

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What Does the Bible Say?

Do you believe the Bible? As Christians, we often say that we do. The Bible is a large and complex book. We can study it for a lifetime and there will still be plenty to learn.

And Christians sometimes disagree about what the Bible teaches. Over the years, Christian leaders decided that some things in the Bible are absolutely important. Other things are not essential. Faithful Christians can disagree on some of the details.

But one area that we need to be especially careful about: we need to make sure that we actually read and understand what it says.

When I was about 20, I was having a conversation with a friend. He told me that he believed that the Bible teaches that races should stay separate. I asked him why. He told me because in the Genesis story of the Tower of Babel, God separated people into races.

This is bad biblical interpretation in a lot of ways, but I challenged him on the most basic point. Genesis does not say anything about race in the Tower of Babel story. Nothing! I pulled out my Bible and told him to show me where it says anything about race. He read it over and over. He had to acknowledge that it didn’t.

But he still didn’t change his mind.

Sometimes, the things you have been told are in the Bible are simply not there. Read it for yourself.

Love in Christ,
Greg Burriss, Pastor
Rocky River Baptist Church
Siler City, NC

Ebola Fight or Flight?

In the United States, the fear of Ebola is rising. Humans have always exhibited one of two responses to fear: fight or flight. While most of us would definitely choose flight in the face of Ebola, Baptists in Liberia are choosing to fight.

The Baptist World Alliance is partnering with the Liberia Baptist Missionary and Educational Convention to raise money to fight the Ebola epidemic at its source. These partners are attempting to raise $35,000 to provide food, sanitation and other materials to 100 pastors in 100 communities across Liberia. The Cooperative Baptist Fellowship in the United States has contributed $5000 to this effort.

Ebola has claimed the lives of over 700 in Liberia and more than 1,900 in West Africa. The epidemic has forced the closing of schools and businesses. Loss of job income has forced people to abandon their homes and created an even larger disaster.

Education, medical support and help with food and shelter are needs that Christians are helping to meet. Liberian Baptists, with help from Baptists around the world, are bringing hope and healing to their neighbors and families.

To learn more about the Baptist Response to help in the fight, visit http://cbfblog.com/2014/10/30/cbf-encourages-financial-support-for-its-ebola-crisis-response/

If you would like to donate to the Baptist World Alliance partnership with Liberian Baptists visit http://www.bwanet.org/give

Love in Christ,
Greg Burriss, Pastor
Rocky River Baptist Church
Siler City, NC